i hate regrets...how to live our life without regrets...

"I hate regrets... the one thing I hated most... if only i have a chance to start again my life... if only..."

Everyone has made poor choices or done something in their past that could possibly be labeled as "regrettable." But, think about it. The fact that you are now able to look back and realize that a mistake or mis-step occurred means you have learned a valuable lesson. Some of my choices may have landed me in unpleasant circumstances, but experiencing these things certainly built my current character. I wouldn't be where I am today if it weren't for those character-building situations. Mistakes are stepping stones to an evolving life. No need for you to sink into regret or despair -- keep your chin up.

Here's how:

1. Acknowledge a mistake has been made - It is easy to play the blame game, pointing fingers at someone else or cirmcumstances as to why you have stumbled or why your life is difficult. Taking personal ownership that your past actions resulted in bringing about your current reality is the first step to moving past regrets and moving toward a brighter future.
2. Make amends - If your past actions or words have harmed another person an apology may be in order. Or not, apologies can be tricky. Judge for yourself if an apology will help matters or only drudge up old wounds better left alone. But, definitely forgive yourself! Nobody is perfect. We all make mistakes. Continuely berating yourself for past actions is self-defeating. Would you kick a dog while it was laying down? Of course not. Please don't do this to yourself. Righting a wrong is not always feasible. If you feel badly about a past action you've taken that cannot be righted, forgive yourself, and let it go.
3. Do-overs - Sometimes feelings of regret arise not from our past actions, but from our non-actions. Have you ever regretted not taking a vacation, staying stuck in a dead-end job, not attending college... or whatever? It may be too late to reverse those decisions, but you still have options. Some colleges offer free classes for seniors. You might not have the time, money, or physical endurance to travel, but you can rent movies or attend travelog showings about the regions you wish to learn more about. New opportunities are available around every corner if you just open your heart and follow your dreams.
4. Be grateful - The most valuable lessons learned in life often come from the mistakes we make. It may take a walk down a dark alley to see clearly. Embrace your follies, feel gratitude for getting past the worst episodes and eventually finding your way along a less-cluttered path.
5. Be careful not to repeat the same mistake - A skinned-knee teaches a small child not to run so fast. Slow-down. If you are repeatedly faced with similar difficulties over and over again, this is a sure bet that you have not learned the lessons these situations are trying to teach. Opportunity will surface only after you take responsibility for faulty actions taken and change your current and future behaviors accordingly.
6. Be watchful of future knee-jerk reactions - This is probably the toughest step, not reacting negatively to situations or the people who tend to push your buttons. We don't always have control over the things life tosses in front of us, but we do control our reactions. Stay calm. Introduce stress-management into your daily life. Meditation helps clear and focus the mind. Therapeutic play will help balance work-related stresses.
7. Looking deeper inside - Re-evaluate the direction your life is taking. Have you accepted that your past mistakes are just that --- in the past? Focus on today. Become aware of your future goals and desires. Setting clear intentions will help clear the path so that your life progresses with a freer heart and increased happiness. The best is yet to come! Believe it.

TIPS:

1. Remember, nobody is perfect. Including yourself!
2. Forgiveness is golden.
3. Live for today. Yesterday was then.

Stand out...Make a Challenge

There are things you already knew which is right...but you still tempted to do what is wrong...and acted like you're just a human, weak and can commit sins...That is why there are several numbers of sinners...(ouch!!!) :( because of this perception... sad but this is the reality...

And you have to stand out for what you believe and fight for it...save the earth! polluted from sins... this is our challenge...everyone of us...after this holy week, I realized one thing, it's hard to be holy...strive to be good...but it's harder if you don't let Jesus touches your life...God loves us...Let us bring back to him the LOVE he gave to us... :)

Roadmap to our Success

Last year, a friend and I were discussing our career goals.

She told me her dream job was to be a doctor in US. I asked her what she was doing to get there and she immediately backtracked and said it was impossible and she had no chance of it becoming a reality.

This made me think.

How many of us are so hampered by this fear of rejection or embarrassment that we ignore what we truly want or don’t take steps to get there?

I am not advocating everyone quit their jobs to become a artist or max out their credit cards to pay for a trip around the world.

What I am saying is to stop talking or dreaming and get off your butt and start making it a reality.

First, you need to decide what you truly want. Do you want to own your own business or quit your desk job and become a writer? Visualization is very important because it is what will keep you inspired when you want to give up.

For example, my goal is to move to Singapore and try and make it as a developer, or to put up my own internet cafe, so my goal is to save Php 300,000 in two years .

Next you have to plan out your dream. Research how best to get from where you are now to where you want to be. Do some research and get as much information as you can and make a map. Make a list of small goals that are easy to achieve.

Finally, the hard part. Start making that dream a reality. Start in on the first goal and work on it steadily till you can cross it off the list. Once you do, don’t look back, just focus on the next hurdle and slowly your destination will become a reality.

As Henry Ford, the founder of Ford Motor company once said, “Whether you think you can or whether you think you can’t, you’re right!”.

Your turn, what kinds of goals are you all working towards?

Let's start making our dreams to become reality!!! :)

Start the new year to be S.M.A.R.T!!!

The righteous keep moving forward... and... become stronger.

Job 17:9 NLT

Whoever said, "Procrastination is the thief of time," was right. We keep postponing, promising ourselves we'll do better. Be honest, how many of last year's resolutions did you keep? This year do things differently. Make your goals S.M.A.R.T. In other words, make them:

(S)pecific: Get up earlier in order to read your Bible and pray before going to work. Make time for your family. Exercise. Eat right. Take care of your body; it's God's temple (1 Corinthians 6:19-20).

(M)oderate: tackling more than one project at a time dilutes your focus and makes it harder to stick with. When you start too much you finish too little. Start small and build on your successes by mastering and maintaining one thing at a time.

(A)chievable: don't try to swallow the whole elephant in one bite. Baby steps are the name of the game. Paul said, "One thing I do" (Philp 3:13 NKJV). Talk in terms of what you will do instead of what you won't. For example, instead of saying, "I'm not going to be so critical," say, "Today I'm going to look for something good in everybody I meet" (See Philp 4:8).

(R)ecordable: You can't manage what you can't measure. Documenting your progress (or lack of it!) makes you accountable, shows how far you've come and what you need to work on.

(T)ime-specific: review your goals weekly (or daily if you're struggling). That way you can troubleshoot early, and change direction when necessary. The Bible says, "Throw yourself into your tasks so… everyone will see your progress" (1 Timothy 4:15 NLT). Come on, make up your mind, get up off the couch and go for it!